Summer Chronicles

SC1: EROTICISM AND LUST FOR LIFE

JULY 2024
 

Summer. Heat. Salty skin. Body opening with the pulse of life, craving for relaxation, for the sea, for touch and connection. Spirit wondering through the vast realms of possibilities, being at the peak of the year,  a moment to find space and time to be and to be with, to feel, to express, to be energized by the Sun guiding us to get in touch with our inner fire.

Summer is the time when life comes to us through all of our senses – through the colours of the nature around us, and colours of our clothes that mimic that nature, through the tastes of fresh fruits that remind us of juiciness and ripeness of Life, through the sounds of birds and crickets, or music of the dance floors for our surrender. Ah, and the beauty of people on the streets, with not much clothes on, giving up on masks and facades, giving up on postures and trying hard – often because it’s just too hot to keep on trying.

Summer is erotic, or at least it can be if we let it. It can remind us of our true capacity to be with the Eros, with the aesthetics, sensuality, (sexual) desire, attraction, and romantic love - all of which sometimes feels like a lost treasure in our 'go-getting', ‘swipe left’, ‘this asks for effort’, ‘quick gratification’ and ‘avoiding discomfort’ culture that we live in.
 
And sex? In this hot and juicy time, it seems like the idea of it, the insinuation, and the stories around it become ever-present.
At the same time, sex in our culture has become like a holy grail that everybody desires, but not many find in its true value.
Recently I wrote about the topic of female sexuality and how do we, as a modern world perceive sexual energy.
 
‘At the time when everything is available with one scroll, it seems like the concept of sexuality got hit by inflation.  And so we often find ourselves naked on billboards, we promote yoga by showing the juiciness of our butt, we have the right to wear what we want to, but sometimes we choose to wear nothing at all. It’s important to us to have equal rights to sleep with who we want without being gossiped about or called names and we get offers for sex on every walk or every scroll on social media – whether we want it or not.  Hypersexualisation has never been stronger, but global trends show that people are having sex less and less. 
At the same time, since sex became an omnipresent topic – whether explicitly or implicitly, it is much more visible how we as a society know about sex and sexual energy – even about the basic facts – very little.’
 

 And eroticism… it seems like it became an ancient art that some of us don’t even know it exists. Almost long lost wisdom hidden in plain sight waiting on us to enjoy its nectar.
‘Eros to the sexual, in fact it is something much wider and vaster. Eros is the driving force of life itself,  and the erotic is that quality in reality that makes it lively, juicy and alluring.’ It is the breath of air in our thoughts, feelings, and desires that connects our inner depths with the outside world. It is the passion that we feel - not only in our hips, but in our hearts as well. It is the explosion of ideas, sometimes coming together in a new way, or just the possibility of grasping with our minds new understanding of a part of this beautiful world. It is our inner drive that is governed by physics – by the natural forces of attraction, taking our interests and our attention in the direction of our deepest longing – if we decide to learn how to be with and listen.
Eroticism is so much more than often simplified to sexual connection - it is our lust for Life, for deep fulfillment, for the vibrant, healthy, shiny, strong energy present in whatever we are doing, our capacity for pleasure – but the one that is nourishing and fulfilling, not superficial and easily forgotten. 
 
It is the true hunger that we have for having the most beautiful, rich, exciting and peaceful, interesting, nourishing, connected and meaningful life we can have.
It is our love and passion with our courage to let it be in our breath and posture, in our whole body and heart as we walk into the store to buy groceries, how we talk to a lover, or  immerse ourselves in a new project.
 
 And how do we get there? How do we allow ourselves to dance with this strong force in our lives without fear of being too much or not enough, without the fear of losing control and being alive, and letting it in every movement that we do? How do we let it in our every thought, every conversation and feeling without over-spilling to the other and the outside world? 
Can we actually allow ourselves to be that abundant, that loving, that strong? Can we allow ourselves to take that much pleasure in ourselves and our life?
 
 
 It is an art, for sure, and the one that we will be mastering our whole life – if we choose so. And it is never the wrong time to invite it for a dance.


K.